9 PRACTICAL TIPS FOR PARENTS
TO IMPROVE YOUR CHILD'S BEHAVIOR
Practical Parenting Tip 1: In parenting children the results you achieve with your child’s behavior reflect what you do and how you do it. In other words, to improve your child's behavior, you first must improve your own.
Look for how your way of seeking parental control impacts your child’s behavior. Child behavior problems do not “come out of nowhere”. Change your mode of parental involvement for improved child behavior.
Some common ways parents produce or worsen child discipline challenges include:
•exposing the child to too much adult anger and frustration
•not spending enough loving quality time with the child
•paying too little attention to the child BEFORE the child drifts into trouble.
Practical Parenting Tip 2: Take total responsibility for how you react. When you react with anger and stress you cause your child to react with anger and stress, which makes it harder for your child to behave well.
You can find calmer, more competent ways of responding when you stop making your child responsible for your negative emotional reactions.
Practical Parenting Tip 3: To improve your child's behavior maintain a balanced life. An unbalanced life causes parents to seek parenting control with too much:
For balanced living:
•practice some form of meditative centering or conscious relaxation
•do enough of what you love to keep your inspiration high
•practice doing what must be done in a calm, confident, unhurried manner.
(You CAN make this happen.)
Practical Parenting Tip 4: Gaining parental control starts with controlling your reaction to child behavior. To the extent that your child’s behavior makes you react with anger and stress, your child is in charge.
Begin improving parent control by focusing on improving your self-control. However your child behaves, decide to handle it with peace and poise. From peace you can choose your parent-response based on what you want to accomplish with your child.
Practical Parenting Tip 5: Practice CONSCIOUS parenting. By paying closer attention to what is presently happening in your parent-child relationship you can more quickly recognize and overcome habitual reaction patterns that continue re-creating the same old child discipline problems.
Practical Parenting Tip 6: Respond to the need your child expresses through the child behavior she displays.
If you react only to the behavior and overlook the need, your child will likely demonstrate increasingly serious behavior problems. To determine the need behind the behavior, calm down and try to sense how your child feels. Then consider what your child may need from you to feel more calm, confident, secure and happy.
Practical Parenting Tip 7: Children fulfill the self-concept that we project upon them. Be careful about the verbal messages you give your child about himself. Avoid saying things like:
•You make me angry.
•You move too slowly.
•You force me to yell.
•You are lazy.
•You're a brat.
•You don't care about anyone but yourself.
•You are untrustworthy.
•You are irresponsible”
Etc, etc, etc, actually programs your child to behave in line with those negative self-concepts.
Practical Parenting Tip 8: Children need a stable home environment of peaceful, harmonious order to demonstrate responsible behavior and a happy, loving, respectful attitude. Work on bringing more of these qualities into your child’s homelife to improve your child's behavior.
Practical Parenting Tip 9: God sends a challenging child into your life when it is time for you to grow. Remember that the key to raising children is raising ourselves. As you pursue your own ongoing personal development you are bound to enjoy better results in parenting.
To learn more parenting tips to improve your child's behavior see Bob Lancer's breakthrough parenting book: Parenting With Love, Without Anger Or Stress.