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Sibling Rivalry Solutions 

There are severao troubling environmental influences that cause or contribute to child behavior problems in general, and negatively impact sibling relationships by increasing sibling rivalry.


These sibling rivalry inducers include the following 7:

1. Marital discord

2. An unstable routine

3. Much stress, unhappiness, impatience or emotional explosiveness expressing from a parent or other member of the household

4. A parent who seems emotionally absent or inaccessible 

5. Routinely modeling inappropriate behavior that you do not wish the child to repeat

6. Situations in which the child receives inadequate supervision

7. Reacting too critically or harshly toward the child 


If your siblings display ugly sibling rivalry, look over the above list to see where you can begin making some improvements to reduce the frequency and intensity of sibling rivalry. 


You will find it virtually impossible to improve the way your children
treat one another in a context of these influences. 


You can always make some degree of improvement.  Sometimes it amounts to very little. Sometimes, the best you can do is to improve your way of accepting the present display of sibling rivalry without losing your cool.  


Wtever degree of improvement you can make, though, is worth the effort, because it produces positive change and leads to more opportunities.


So begin your work on solving sibling rivalry problems by working on their surrounding influences. While this may seem like an indirect path to progress it actually addresses the root causes of the problem. 


Do you yell at your siblings to stop them from yelling at one another? Do you lose your composure and react with much frustration when they lose their patience with one another?  Do you harshly criticize your children, injuring their self-esteem, when they viciously attack one another?  These are examples of how we parents undermine contribute to sibling rivalry problems by modeling the very behavior problems that we want our children to change.


While you are not entirely responsible for the way things are in your life, your results in all areas are, at least to some extent, are a product of how you think, feel, speak and act. 


Until you improve how you function, you cannot improve your results in any area of life, including parenting your children. As long as you continue reacting in the same habitual ways, you must continue feeling trapped in the same disappointing results.


Your 7-Point Take Away For Solving Sibling Rivalry Problems


Here is your 7-point take away to begin solving sibling rivalryt problems.  It amounts to turning the list of 7 negative influences that open this article into 7 target-areas to work on.


If you cannot seem to change things in these target-areas, you can at least improve the way that you accept the way things are. If you see no way to make any improvement, you are probably insisting on making more change than is possible, and overlooking or disregarding the tiny increments of improvement that really are achievable.  

To Solve Sibling Rivalry Problems:

1. Improve your way of relating with your spouse (or ex-spouse).

2. Bring a more stable routine into your children's lives.

3. Practice handling everything with more peace and poise, and with less stress, unhappiness, impatience or emotional explosiveness.

4. Work on connecting with your children in a more loving, sensitive, aware way.

5. Look for ways that you inappropriate behavior that you do not wish your child to repeat, and replace those with a higher level of functioning.

6. Pay closer attention to your children before their behavior drifts into problematic patterns.

7. Replace any critical or harsh ways that you have been reacting toward the child with more calm and compassionate modes of leadership.

For more assistance with siblings, listen to Bob Lancer's powerful CD Recording: SIBLING (Rivalry) SOLUTIONS. CLICK HERE to go to his CD's page and scroll down for the title.  
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